Is Casual Sex Just for the Movies?

While there will always be an ongoing debate surrounding the morality of casual sex, the fact is that more people want it then may actually admit it. Just check out an adult online dating site and you will understand what I mean. But what is more enticing? The opportunity to tally up how many members of the opposite sex you are able to sleep with? Or, could it be that you desire to have the benefits of an intimate relationship with a friend, even if it’s just a casual relationship, without the emotional stuff that often comes with a serious relationship. Let’s be honest. In a relationship we are rarely afraid of the physical part of casual sex; it’s the emotional side that can scare the hell out of us!

With recent movies hitting the big screen in the U.S. like No Strings Attached and Hall Pass, more people are wondering if casual sex is just for the movies. Can a casual relationship really work once you take it off the big screen and put it in the setting of the average living room, or kitchen, or bedroom, or elevator, of the average couple.

Some experts say that casual sex without commitment is impossible. Others say that a casual relationship with a no strings attached relationship is very possible, and can actually be healthy. Where you land on this issue may have much to do with your maturity, your age, or your lifestyle.

If you are interested in hooking up for a casual encounter the best advice out there is to communicate clearly with your potential partner. It’s when two people have different end games, or expectations, in mind that things can get sticky. Remember that emotional baggage that we mentioned before…the stuff that scares us? Well, that’s what will result if you’re not clear up front about what the sexual encounter is all about.

You must be ready and willing to tell yourself and your mate that “I am not ready for a relationship; I am not interested in having a serious relationship with you – now or in the future; and all I want is some good, clean, no strings attached casual sex.”

Reach For A New Level Of Intimacy: Sex Toys For Him and Her

There are a lot of women who are a little put off about their man watching porn or using sex toys. They feel that somehow it diminishes what they have and that it means that the man needs more than just them. It may sound strange but women can actually be jealous of magazines, movies and latex.

Women feel betrayed and angry because their man will usually hide his toy use and porn consumption. What women fail to understand is that this is an area that could actually draw the two of them closer if she will only let it. This attitude is not restricted to women, there are men who go ballistic when they find a vibrator in their woman’s arsenal.

The problem is that these insecure men and women see the sex toy as a rival instead of one more way they can find enjoyment with each other. The key to being comfortable with all things sexual is being confident.

Sex toys are not something that is new, they have been in use in some form since ancient times. While most people think of them as a piece of equipment for solo use, they can be used by couples to add a new dimension to their love. It is a way to take the taboo out of bedroom play. It might amaze many that there is still a very puritanical way of thinking when it comes to sex and what is acceptable.

Sex toys come in a variety of shapes, sizes and models. While the world is more accepting all forms of stimulating devices for women like vibrators and dildos, more and more you will find that the market is opening up for men sex toys.

We are all familiar with the jokes surrounding the “blow up doll” as a female substitute, but these are no longer the only item being made for men today. There are many hand held devices that make solo sexual satisfaction better. There are times when many couples find that coitus is not practical. It is at these times that the male sex toy can be a great relief.

The real trick to enjoying adult sex toys is that you and your mate become comfortable with your sexuality. You have to be able to enjoy sex with the lights on, without shame or inhibitions. The reason a lot of men hide their porn and sex toy use is that they have grown up in a society that have made it “TABOO” to do what comes naturally.

It is this prevailing attitude and the females insecurities that make men feel a sense of shame. We are trained to believe that sex is only to be an activity between a male and female. That pleasuring ones self is depraved somehow. Although we have become a more enlightened society these ingrained notions still exist to a certain degree. Adult sex toys are seen as items used by only a subversive subset and that “normal” couples do not need to enhance their sex play.

Before now the adult sex toys were delivered in those plain brown wrappers or you had to do a “cloak and dagger” routine so that no one would see you going into “one of those shops”. The Internet has changed all of this, you can now browse the catalogs of hundreds of sex shops, from the privacy of your own home

Watching Adult Sex Videos Together – Movies Make Magic

Although they still have a stigma for many people, watching adult sex videos with your spouse can be a really great way to improve your marriage sex. Available in as many different varieties as there are types of people in the world, you can watch everything from very basic, “soft porn” as it is called to more graphic and experimental types of adult films. Sensual and erotic imagery is both visually and mentally arousing and may even plant an idea or two in your minds for what you would like to try with one another. Rather than being something that only single men watch in the dark, by themselves, while they masturbate, adult films are actually a really effective type of foreplay for many married couples.

Many couples may secretly want to watch an adult film together, but are hesitant because they are afraid to suggest it to their mate. For some women, there is a fear that their husband will find the women on film more attractive than they find them. For some men, there is concern that their wives may be turned off or find fault with their arousal. The reality is that watching adult films together can be a real bonding experience. It may take several tries to find a particular genre of adult film that works for you both, but in most cases, just the simple act of being “naughty” and watching other people getting physical is enough to start something fun for the married couple watching.

If you and your spouse have decided to watch an adult sex video together, then you should discuss what kinds of films are “OK” and which ones are “off limits”. For instance, your spouse may be uncomfortable watching a film that depicts more than one partner at a time. The object of watching an adult sex video together is to get one another turned on, not turned off, so be sensitive to one another’s preferences. One of the benefits of watching a sex video together is that you may get ideas for positions to try out. Also, having the noise in the background may also help lower your spouse’s inhibitions when it comes to expressing their pleasure vocally.

If you are looking for an easy way to improve your marriage sex life, watching adult sex videos together is a great way to start. Sit back, relax, pop in a video and let nature take its course. You may find that you are having the hottest sex of your marriage, in no time flat!

Adult Sex Toys Industry Revolution – 2010 Venus Exhibition in Berlin

With over 29,000 attendants, the 2010 Venus adult toys exhibition has broken the records before. More than 13,000 visitors rushed into the expo pavilion underneath the Berlin radio tower on Sunday. Why is this event so hot? I think you will find the answer if you follow me in this article below.

In the 2010 Venus expo, 273 exhibitors from all over the world bring our visitors millions of new products which include 3D animated adult movies, mobile phone (even the iPhone 4) applications and all kinds of new vibrators and massagers.

Every year the adult sex toys event brings lots of surprises to customers and contributors. In the event, we found many highlights which may attract you as well.

1. Respect homosexuality, sex toys can do that.

Homosexuality is not a social problem. It’s just all about love, which maybe a little different from the “normal” ones in your opinion. I confess the sex toys are (one of) the greatest inventions in this world. They perfectly solve sexual problems between homosexual partners and as a result, homosexual buyers are an essential part which makes up the main targets for sex toys.

Pornography As a Turn-On for Fun-Driven Adult Sex

Adventurous couples can buy a pornographic video and watch it together. That is generally a surefire way to end up in bed. In fact, it is usually when couples are in bed that they watch such films. And if the film is a good one they will enjoy being turned on as they watch it. Many couples find that the provocative content stimulates them to duplicate what is being viewed. They are impulsively driven to touch each other, kid around, mimic the sex acts, and swing from the imagined chandelier as they tickle each other’s fancy.

In many countries in the world, including most industrialized ones, pornography is not banned or hidden from view. For example, at King’s Cross district in Sydney, Australia a section of the city is designated to show and sell pornography Sex oriented videos, DVDs, books, sex toys, lubricants, assumed aphrodisiacs, are sold in kiosks and stores. Strip clubs, restaurants, massage parlors and other clubs are available to meet members of the opposite sex.

In Europe, in many countries, and cities pornography is not hidden and thus available for adults. In all the countries there are restrictions to the sale of pornography to children and prosecution of offenders is open and continuous.

In the US pornography is not banned from sale to adults although there is no tolerance on anyone abusing the Child Pornography laws.

But for the purpose of improving the sex life of adults pornography has a place for some. Do you have to be lonely or hard-up to use porn? The answer is No. Porn can be a substitute for sex for many lonely and sex starved adults, mainly men, and for adults without a partner who like visual stimulation for self-arousal.

Finally, let’s examine whether pornography can fit into the armamentarium of the average adult who wishes for increased stimulation for lovemaking. What can porno offer?
As with any movie there is added stimulation by watching real pictures compared to imaging such scenes. Some porno videos actually tell a reasonable story where there is more than just sexual exploitation. So some selection is necessary. Google is a good resource to discover what are considered the best sex videos made in the past few decades.

Beside adding visual stimulation couples can mimic what they see, learn about new positions, empathize with the excitement of the sex partners, imagine participating in the viewed sex, experience sex beyond their own interests, such as gay, bi, S and M, bondage, oral and anal sex, and the use of fetishes. Some show dancing, foreplay that could be stimulating and perhaps above all can act as a stimulus to open the viewers to become freer and lustier about sex.

If you attempt to try out the benefits of sex videos and it is new to you imagine becoming an adventurer and explorer so you don’t take a negative bias into your viewing. An open mind will allow you to gain what might be there for you. At the very worst it won’t have any effect on you and may even turn you off. If so, just chalk it up as another interesting experience.

To determine if pornography may be a stimulus for your personal sex life approach its use openly. It might be a new vehicle for greater enjoyment of sex for occasional use or even frequent use. Remember adults have no restrictions on what they mutually do and prefer behind closed doors. So enjoy the movies and enjoy the sex and know you have taken another step to gaining a new stimulus for sex and love.

by Marvin H. Berenson, M.D. July 12, 2011

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